Learning What I Want After a Seven-Year Relationship

Starting over after a seven-year relationship gave her the space to meet herself again. Free from someone else's expectations, she began figuring out what she liked, needed, and wanted to try.

My first Lovense became part of a much bigger journey of getting to know myself. After leaving a seven-year relationship and starting to date again, I realized I wanted to explore my sexuality more consciously: what I like, what I need, where my boundaries are, and how to communicate all of that without embarrassment.

Looking back, I understood how sexually unfulfilled I had been. I never felt confident enough to talk openly about my needs, and my pleasure didn’t feel like a priority. That is a big reason why learning to understand and prioritize it matters so much to me now.

The Lush 4 was the toy I kept hearing about whenever I researched sex toys, so I eventually bought a Lush 4 and loved it.

What surprised me was how much the app became part of the experience. Reading posts, learning about different kinks and preferences, talking openly with people, and doing my own research have all helped me understand myself better.

The person I’m dating now is open about sexuality, which has made me more confident saying what feels good, what I’m into, and what I want to try.

I'm still deciding what role I want Lovense to have in my life: what I am comfortable sharing, what I would rather keep between my partner and me, and where my boundaries lie. I’m also waiting for a Ferri because I'm curious whether discreet play outside the bedroom is something I enjoy. I genuinely don't know yet, and that is part of the fun.

In my mid-20s, I feel as if I'm only beginning to understand this side of myself. Lovense didn’t just introduce me to sex toys. It helped me become more confident, curious, open, and aware of my own pleasure. 💕